Myth: Saying “I want to be a {peer}” means that you will NEVER be that peer.
Fact: Never is a very strong word. I would not say it will prevent you FOREVER but it can slow you down. So this is sort of true. Depending on the meaning behind your words (and the perceived meaning).
The analogy: There’s a difference between saying “I want the cookie and I will check off all the boxes that I believe are on the todo list to receive the cookie to compel the people who have the cookie to give me the cookie because I am greedy for the cookie and it looks tasty” vs “I would like someday to be good enough that someone gives me the cookie because I deserve the cookie.”
Restated:
“I want to be a {peer}.” meaning: “I desire the respect which is given to a {peer} and I deserve it.”
VS
“I want to be a {peer}.” meaning: “I aspire to be good enough to be a {peer} so I am working hard to improve my art/prowess/service/and other PLQs so that I am someday worthy to be a {peer}”
If your entire statement is “I want to be a {peer}” then it’s left to the audience to review your actions to make their best guess as to what you mean with that statement.
This was originally posted on my Facebook page on June 1, 2020.
